The Question That Never Ends
So, When are you getting married?” This question shows the pressure to get married that so many of us feel today. I can imagine the surprise you might feel seeing the first line of my blog.
If you’re a woman in her mid-twenties or older without a partner, you might even find it a tad annoying to come across such a question. Well, Girl!! let me assure you, you’re not alone.
I’ve experienced the same bewilderment when encountering elderly folks – be it grandparents, relatives, or neighbors – who, without fail, pose this very inquiry after meeting me. And it’s not just me; my parents are no strangers to it either. It seems as though everything circles back to the topic of my wedding.
Society’s Obsession with Marriage
Take, for instance, a recent visit from a neighbor who popped by to check on my unwell mother. As she bid her farewell, she couldn’t resist adding, “Take care, Mrs. Francis. We also need to get Vishakha married.”
The audacity of it! Why does everything have to revolve around my marital status? It’s reached a point where it’s become a trigger for me.
On occasion, during family gatherings, when someone inevitably asks, “So, when are you tying the knot?” I’m tempted to jest, “Aunty, I got hitched last year. Didn’t Mumma extend an invitation?” The irony never fails to amuse me.
But on a serious note, I believe our society could do with a bit of a reality check. Why burden someone with such expectations? Marriage isn’t a trivial matter; it’s a lifelong commitment, and rushing into it serves no one.
Why do we confine love to a romantic partner? Can’t love emanate from our parents, siblings, or friends? I recall someone once questioning, “Aren’t you afraid of being alone?”
Why I Choose Patience Over Pressure
To which I confidently replied, “No, why should I be? I’m more apprehensive about forfeiting my happiness with the wrong person. What if I wake up each morning, gaze upon their face, and feel nothing but irritation? What if I never truly connect with them, only to regret it for the rest of my days?”
I choose not to rush, despite the pressure to get married, because I value my happiness and peace. I opt for patience so that I can carefully reflect and make informed decisions.
What’s Your Most Annoying Question?
If you resonate with my sentiments or hold differing views, please don’t hesitate to share. I’m all ears and eager to engage in dialogue on this matter. Also, feel free to let me know: “What’s the most annoying question asked of you?” This was mine.
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